Quick question: What is happiness? How can you tell when you are happy? And how can you tell when someone else is happy?
I received an email from an friend with the subject line: Poor woman
Here’s the email:
Mum set for 18th baby
An Arknsas woman is pregnant with her 18th child – and says she plans to have more.
Michelle Duggar, 41, is due on New Year’s Day, and the latest addition will join seven sisters and 10 brothers, including two sets of twins.
All of the children’s names start with the letter J – and they are all schooled at the family’s home in Tontitown.
“We’ve had three in January, three in December. Those two months are a busy time for us,” she said.
The Duggars’ oldest child, Josh, is 20, and the youngest, Jennifer, is nine months old.
Mrs Duggar has been been pregnant for more than 11 years of her life, and she and her husband, Jim Bob, say they’ll keep having children as long as God wills it.
“The success in a family is first off, a love for God, and secondly, treating each other like you want to be treated,” Mr Duggar said.
“Our goal is for each one of our children to be best friends, and everybody working together to serve each other makes that happen.”
The children, in between Joshua and Jennifer, are: Jana, 18; John-David, 18; Jill, 16; Jessa, 15; Jinger, 14; Joseph, 13; Josiah, 11; Joy-Anna, 10; Jeremiah, 9; Jedidiah, 9; Jason, 7; James, 6; Justin, 5; Jackson, 3; and Johannah, 2.
So when I saw my friend, I go:
Me: why did you say ‘poor’ woman
Her: DID you NOT read HOW MANY kids she has??!!!
Me: DID you NOT see her picture?
Me: Just stare at her eyes; with a piece of paper cover her mouth and forehead so you can only see her eyes. She is smiling with her eyes, there’s bright joy in those lanterns. Very rarely you can look deep into someone’s eye and not notice any fear; in hers not only I didn’t see any fear, they were kinds soothing as well.
Her: Would you be happy being her?
Me: Me?!! No!! Of course not…well I don’t think so anyway…but the point is I’m not her. The things that make me happy probably won’t make her happy.
Her: I still think she’s not happy. No one can be happy with 18 kids!!!
This conversation kinda reminded me of the story of the philosopher and the fish. Enjoy the story:
A philosopher once said to a fish, “The purpose of life is to reason and become wise.” The fish answered, “The purpose of life is to swim and catch flies.” The philosopher muttered “Poor fish.” Back came a whisper, “Poor philosopher.”